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Self-Love September; Self-Love When Your Need is Desperate

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My husband and I have had a hard time this month with our oldest child who is smack dab in the middle of her challenging teenage years, and just started her first year of high school. If I thought we had gotten a taste of teenage attitude in the previous years, I was wrong. That, my friends, was a warm-up. What we're getting now is full-on disdain, disregard for our rules, thoughts, and opinions, and at times, I'm pretty sure a streak of loathing. I love my kids fiercely, but sometimes, I don't like them very much...

This past week or so has really been a struggle for me in terms of my own mental-health. Things have been said and inferred that are very hard not to take personally. I've been doing my best to protect myself, but I thought that instead of staying quiet about this struggle that some of the coping strategies I have been using can be useful to you too. Some of them are basic, and you've probably heard of them before, but sometimes a reminder isn't a …

Self-Love September; Self-Loving Practices for Empaths

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If it is one word that I was called a lot growing up, it was "sensitive." I was accused of being too sensitive, overly-sensitive, a raw nerve, looking too deeply into people's reactions, and anticipating emotions or moods that weren't visible yet (but that almost always became apparent shortly) by my parents and family members. It was often said that I was going to be either an actress or a lawyer when I grew up, and since I grew up to be neither, I like to gloat about this point with my grandma once in a while, just for a shared giggle. But I did realize when I was in my early adulthood that all the things my parents thought I was making too much of a fuss about were because I was empathic, and feeling or sensing things that were often hard for other people to see or feel. I wasn't being dramatic when I reacted quite emotionally to something that was said to me, but usually because I felt the full force of the impact of the statement, on both an emotional as wel…

Self-Love September; Pitfalls and Mistakes to Avoid

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If I've learned anything over the years, it's that self-love is a daily practice Some days are easier, and some are damned difficult to survive, let alone doing anything supportive or loving for myself. I think back to days when I was recovering from an emergency appendix removal surgery, a 2-month-old baby in my arms, high as a kite on Tylenol #3's, and feeling utterly exhausted. It was all I had just to finish feeding him the bottle and hand him off to my mom before I collapsed into bed to sleep. Self-love for me that day was having the wisdom to realize I couldn't recover from surgery and care for a newborn all by myself, that I needed to sleep, and that I needed to accept someone else snuggling my baby for a while.

Fast forward nearly 9 years, and now that newborn baby is in grade 4, a busy, energetic and intelligent kid who loves video games and Pokemon. My self-love practise has changed as drastically as he has, and I now take off once a week, leaving all 3 of my…